The impact of a war

“You are so lucky that you haven’t seen anything of the war. Plus you got to live in a very high standard country”.
This is what people usually like to tell me if I tell a bit about my background.
I hate the word luck in general.
These days, every accomplishment is considered to be “luck”.

I haven’t talked a lot on the blog about my actual background.
Where everything once started.
And every event has impacted my current life.


I was born in 1990 in Sarajevo.
Bosnia still belonged to Yugoslavia, until about 1.5 years later.
We were forced to leave everything we had behind and try to escape the country due to the war.
We traveled from country to country, trying to find acceptance and safety.
Luckily this tiny country called the Netherlands offered us that.
After living in several asylum seekers centers, we finally a nice little house in the small town.

Instead of feeling intense happiness, this was the moment where both my parents completely collapsed.
One day I got pulled out of the class room and was told that both of them were brought to hospital.
Mum struggled with Diabetes Type 1 and Hernia. She had to stay for 2 weeks.
Dad was hospitalized in a psychiatry with sever depression.
Weeks had gone by before we were allowed to see him for the first time.

12 thoughts on “The impact of a war

  1. Working with a couple of agencies that deal with refugees and crisis immigration, this is, unfortunately, not unusual.
    Doctors and experts say, that in the midst of the uncertainty, our bodies can override symptoms that we would normally treat otherwise. We can’t allow them to slow us down, so we don’t. Then, a week or two into relaxing, our bodies cry out for the rest and healing they need. And they force us to get that help, but by that time, we may have to add PTSD and the symptoms it can cause to our recovery list.
    Recently, there has been a lot of studies that shows those in helping professors that assist them, can often develop the same symptoms, at least the psycho-social issues, but sometimes even the health issues.
    and yes, the impact of the trauma is often life-long.

    I don’t believe in luck either, and while I can’t explain why person A seems to resonate with the deliverance and hope that comes and person B does not (or so it seems) there is still a reason to give thanks to God.

  2. Thank you for sharing your experiences. Its not easy to open up. Your family is really brave and Im so glad that you made it safely out of your country. I hope your parents health has returned and that you all have found some peace of mind since settling in the Netherlands.

  3. Wow Andrea… It takes a lot to open up and share such personal experiences. That’s why I enjoy your blog so much, you’re real and relatable. I hope your parents are doing better now and have had the time needed to make the adjustment.

    Leaving home is never easy, but when it is done under stress and duress, it makes matters even worse.

  4. Thank you! Means a lot!
    Things are a lot better now and I support my parents where I can 🙂

    I think I will write a post about being real!

  5. This is a lot for a family to go through. I cannot imagine what it was like for you. It was amazing to read so I thank you for sharing. I think that when we go through something rough in life we come out stronger in the end. You are a strong person Andrea! 🙂

  6. Thank you for sharing. War is horrible and I am glad that your family and yourself manage to leave the country.

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