“You’re one of those women, aren’t you?”, some one told me once, “A woman who doesn’t like women”.
Although not necessarily true, I do see where that is coming from.
Even though I grew up in a female dominated household, I always got along with my dad the best.
From a young age he showed me how to play chess, which resulted into me winning some tournaments.
We watched The Karate Kid together, which resulted in me in getting the brown belt in karate 5 years later.
He taught me math and physics, which resulted in me studying engineering.
It might differ in other countries, but where I grew up, I would usually be the only girl when practicing these hobbies.
Naturally I hung out with men more than women.
The largest benefit?
I had no opportunity to compare myself with others, appearance wise.
Maybe not for the fair reasons, but I was always the prettiest girl in the group.
And honestly, that didn’t make me feel bad 😉
In high school I was mainly bullied because of my looks.
And all the bullying was by girls.
Other than my mum, I didn’t think women could ever be nice.
The largest disadvantage ?
I never really felt comfortable with my femininity.
I knew the boys in my class never understood what it was to have cramps for 5 days straight, so I never saw the whole point of even having my period.
Internally I criticized other girls for wearing make up, high heels and hand bags or their wish to quit a job and become a mother.
I have now come to a point where people in general annoy me 😉
Yet if I had to choose, I’d stay in my comfort zone and prefer men over women.
Stepping out of that comfort zone would give me a lot insecurities
But I really would love to spend time with women and learn how to embrace the female qualities.
Do you prefer to be in an environment with the same or opposite gender? And why?