I have always considered myself a bit unlucky.
My body is covered with scars due little accidents.
Missing my bus. Flat tire.
Colleagues who bully I had at some of my jobs.
Yet, many people told me I am very lucky person.
But sometimes I wonder, is it really luck?
Or could it be that I just made thoughtful decisions?
Or I just worked very hard?
Here are some of the things people are calling me lucky for:
I see the way people look at me when I mention what my vacation will look like or when I buy a 50 euro sweater.
But remember the time we were all students?
You guys were out there, partying, spending money on alcohol, waking up with a hangover.
I spent Saturdays watching “the Cosby Show” with my parents who would then ask “What did you learn from this episode?”.
Sunday mornings were for studying.
And guess what? It pays off.
I never failed a year. Never had any student debts either.
And yes, I don’t accept just any salary.
It’s called negotiation.
I have not been without a job so far.
There have been times that I felt I could be fired, but I took preventive measures.
“It’s so easy for you to have a job. You’re young, you have some years of experience AND you’re a woman with an engineering background”, I hear people say.
Not only this is not true.
I have send out 200 applications before being accepted for one job.
But also, you were mostly welcome at engineering school!
I liked math and psychics, but honestly, I took a lot hours studying to make it through.
Not being touched inappropriately by a man
I feel the deepest empathy for women who have gone through such a horrible experience, but I am extremely annoyed by some of the #METOO movement statements:
- All women have experienced something like this
- Men need to behave
True. I have experienced it.
BUT, it was not with a men (as I explain in My opinion about #METOO).
So that also disqualifies the second point.
When I have expressed my feelings about it, there were always two reasons I got from
- Well, you might just not be that attractive. I mean, your clothing style is very conservative.
- Well, you’re very lucky
I am not even going to START explaining everything wrong about the first reason, but what about lucky?
Remember how I spent my Saturday evenings?
Pretty much these days the same.
There was a phase in my life where I enjoyed going out each weekend, but I would never take alcohol or end up going home with “some guy”.
I also had a group of friends where the agreement was to never leave each other’s side.
Now I am not saying that this couldn’t happen any place randomly, but I do believe there are certain things you can do to protect yourself.
And that does not entail clothing which barely covers your butt area.
What are some of the things you have been called Lucky for, but you are not sure if it’s pure luck?