What do you do with comments that bother you?

For those of you who have read my previous post, you might have notice the comment diarrhea.
For those who haven’t, bring in the popcorn, I have made screenshots:

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Why I reacted in this way?
This was one of those Award post and nearly first thing I wrote was for people not to write “Congrats” and then leave.
My number one blogging frustration.
Those people never comment on any post and find an easy way in showing their “kindness”.
FYI, I see right through it.

Maybe this person genuinely didn’t read my post.
But maybe he did do intentionally, to provoke me.
I told him right from the start what my weak spot and he didn’t decided to put salt on the aching wound.

This post is not about shaming this person.
Because I showed classic signs of being pretentious too.
I mean, the kissing smiley, “hon”, the bye bye in that way.
Come Andrea, yo momma raised you better than that!

By my reaction, you might think that this didn’t hurt.
But someone calls you “disgusting person”.
Of course that’s going to feel like a knife in your heart.
Yet internet makes it so easy to hide that.

In real life, I still haven’t decided to whether I should toughen up or just avoid human interaction any way I can.

And now here thinking, why did this have to happen.
I could have ignored or spammed it.
But then, I wouldn’t have this post to write ๐Ÿ˜‰

What do you do with comments that bother you?
Ignore, spam or reply?

49 thoughts on “What do you do with comments that bother you?

  1. Ignore.. Because you will just add more fire to the flame๐Ÿ”ฅand just let it be. The person is just miserable with himself and is trying to bring you down with him.

  2. Nobody ever bothered me with comments. Maybe they only target women. I would ignore such a person, coz we have real people to fight everywhere…๐Ÿค˜๐Ÿค˜…why waste dialogues on the unreal ones. โœŒ:-):-)

  3. I think what you’re somewhat asking (and I could be wrong) is if you’re valid to feel both insulted and irritated at this comment, and the answer is yes. However, I’ve been trying to practice a life of ‘peace’, and I’m talking REAL peace, as in your world falls apart but you can get through it without being sucked in, and one of the things I’ve noticed is that sometimes I pay too much attention to what people say. If someone called me greedy but I knew I wasn’t then I wouldn’t care but when someone said something that might be slightly true or that I didn’t know if to believe or not because my confidence levels were too low, it immediately consumed me! Why doesn’t this person like me? Am I actually that label they gave me?

    My point is just believe in yourself and don’t be brought down to someone else’s level. Stay happy. Look at your awesome readers and fans! We obviously think you’re great and one person’s rude comments doesn’t change that. So in the end, they’re just words. Be confident and don’t respond to them either. If they’ve got nothing nice to say, they shouldn’t say anything at all, and sometimes I remind myself the same before I reply ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. I only spam/delete blatant advertising comments (ex.: visit my blog ASAP).
    But never say never, so I’m not sure what will happen in the future.
    People don’t always do what you tell them to do (or not to do in this case). I’m used to that.
    Toughening up is something I recommend. It’s so much easier to not give a s**t. And the moment you think everything is fine, and you wonder if you should give people a chance, you lower your guard, and BOOM – they never disappoint.

  5. I donโ€™t like the commentors who say something like, “Great post” and then leave their blog homepage for me. Like, what do you want me to do with that?? I used to try to give them the benefit of the doubt and just be nice, like, “oh thank you for visiting my blog and reading my post”, but now I know better than to not believe they’re just fishing for attention. Unless the blog link specifically relates to what I wrote about in my own post, I don’t visit the link at all.

    Mean words over the Internet do hurt. So I can understand why the pain comes so immediately after reading the comment. However, in all seriousness, reading the nasty remarks from that particular person, I kind of find it humorous he/she has very poor English. Can’t even spell “disgusting” right? I know I am being a mean girl right now towards a total stranger but I can’t help but feel defensive since you are nothing but a great person and don’t deserve such hate from whoever that pereon was.

  6. That kind of self promotion is something I hate. I don’t mind someone linking their own post to my blog, but it has to be relevant to the topic!

    I got caught up in the moment and needed it to get out of my system. Hence this post.
    But indeed, his English is poor. ๐Ÿ˜‰
    He pretty much made fool out of himself by doing the one thing I asked not to.

    In the end, I’m happy to never interact with such bloggers again ๐Ÿ˜‰

  7. Ha. The last part couldn’t be more true!
    I’d like to toughen up. Actually internally I don’t feel all that weak.
    It’s just those damn tears. I simply don’t know how to stop them!

  8. You’re right, that was the exact kind of confirmation I was looking for.
    Thank you for giving it to me ๐Ÿ™‚

    I do agree to stay happy.
    It’s just that something like on a day that didn’t go so well for me, hits quite hard.
    And then there was the traffic jam on my way back. The burned dinner.
    And all these little things add up.

    I’ll take a shower and good night rest ๐Ÿ˜‰

  9. Andrea, you handled it well. Some people would say get a thicker skin, but then those aren’t usually the ones people go to during the hard, difficult and painful times. They go to the people who do feel and care. I’m sorry that happened to you, but the fact that it hurt your feelings too also shows you have a real heart!

    And by the way, I started to just write, “Congrats” on here! ๐Ÿ˜‰

  10. For sure, I understand things adding up! I don’t judge at all. I struggle with it a lot and have only recently started to actively ask myself, is this worth it? People like that just really have nothing better to do and you are right to address it and insightful to write about it cause we all have been through things like this.

    When you’re frustrated about traffic jams just consider it extra time to listen to music. when your dinner is burnt consider it an excuse to get some yummy pizza, and when the laundry is too high just remember no one will ever remember you as the lady with the impeccable laundry habits long after you’re gone, and that’s ok! everything happens for a reason. more than once, my mom or sis have told me they were running late and when they finally made it out the door, they realized they would have been in car accidents if they had left even just five minutes earlier. so crazy this world we live in!

    showers help ๐Ÿ™‚ have a great night, love your page ๐Ÿ™‚

  11. I had someone go on a rant about my mussels picture the other day. I deleted it- felt a little bad as everyone is allowed their opinion, but you donโ€™t have to put it on my blog post!!
    Good for you!

  12. Ha, wow. Where do people even find the inspiration and time for something like that! haha.
    You are allowed to delete anything, cause it’s your blog!

  13. Oh boy,I just read your post but havenโ€™t seen the โ€œdiharreaโ€comments,may be as Iโ€™m late reading the post you already delete them.๐Ÿ˜ณI have never been a target of nasty comments,Iโ€™m afraid my posts are too boring and not really stimulating,but I As first reaction I would say just ignore them and junk them into spam.ReCting will just make it worst and prolonged the agony of the back and forth comments but,I also understand the urge of bite back.

  14. I think it’s obvious that someone hasn’t actually read your post when they leave comments like that – it’s frustrating when you spend so much time and effort in crafting posts.

  15. I actually didn’t remove them yet! Was too tired yesterday. But it is all in the snapshots ๐Ÿ˜‰

    I think my posts contain a bit more “bold statements” than yours ๐Ÿ˜‰

    The biting back doesn’t even feel good to be honest. I will forget about my pride and just delete them ๐Ÿ˜‰

  16. I do hope it’s that, because if it’s to provoke me, that would have been way worse!

    These type of people I do not consider bloggers, but populists.
    It’s unfortunate that there are quite some of them on WP!

  17. I doubt it would be to provoke you – I see it all the time people leaving fleeting quick comments and dropping links to their blog to try to get more traffic to their own site. You’re right to flag it though!

  18. You know what the bitterness some battles leave you doesnโ€™t really worth the effort.๐Ÿ˜˜
    P.s
    Bold is always good๐Ÿ˜Ž

  19. Wow! You actually tried to have a conversation with that person to remind them to not just say Congrats too, I read your original reply to them yesterday before I commented.
    I would probably roll my eyes and ignore them but it definitely is frustrating!

  20. I moderate my comments to avoid nasty comments, but even in private, it would be hurtful. Remember that you donโ€™t have to them anyone steal your bliss or control who are that day. I know thatโ€™s hard, but if someone gets upset over something you say, itโ€™s their issue. They are struggling with their own stuff.

  21. I know, thatโ€™s what I wondered too! He had to have looked at my whole blog because the mussels were further down and he did that just to tell me mussels are living and I shouldnโ€™t eat them!
    At least we have control over one thing!

  22. Lots of good comments here.

    There’s a therapist thing on how fear is something we may not ever stop being afraid of. What we can do is whatever makes us braver and stronger.

    This seems to be the right path to walk because then we can better handle whatever comes our way, no matter it’s influence or impact.

    I think the same can be applied here, where we might not ever get over what other people have to say over the Interwebz. What we can do is become tougher and emotionally tamed.

    Then we can focus on what’s most important in our lives, and move it forward.

  23. I just read those comments! What a shit head! I am glad you responded the way you did. When I get I mean comment, I can’t help but respond either. Don’t let the haters get ya down, babe!!! ๐Ÿ˜‰

  24. Ignore. If someone is not ready to accept your views on something and does in a disrespectful way they are not worth your time so don’t entertain them at all

  25. Yea thatโ€™s very true. I did manually approving of comments for a while, but you still the nastiness.
    People are mean. But I guess written words hurt just a little thsn spoken words.

  26. I just wanna say that you are a very good and strong person and of course a blogger too! So just remember that we’re all here for you! Don’t let one stupid person make you feel bad.

  27. I love how you’re self-aware of how you could’ve reacted better but also how confident you are in asserting yourself. Of course the best policy is to ignore them and not give them the time of day because that’s what they want–attention–but I can completely understand feeling attacked and wanting to defend yourself. They say the more people like you, the more people dislike you, so I think you’re doing something right ๐Ÿ˜‰

  28. I am glad that you’re saying this and you’re the only one!
    Although I appreciate the support, I was no saint within my reaction either (!) It’s good to do self reflection from time to time! ๐Ÿ™‚

  29. I spam these sorts of comments because if a person gets spammed enough, WP/Akismet “learns” that they are spam and starts to automatically put their comments there. I’m not 100% sure if it works, but it makes me feel good (and a little evil) doing it. ๐Ÿ™‚

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