About the comment section

Whenever I speak about “likes and followers” being important to me, you guys respond with “Comments have so much more value to me”.

I have always had a Skeptical look towards that, but couldn’t quite figure out why.

Getting comments is nice, I agree.
But answering them does take quite some time.
I find myself easily losing track of comments that are still left open.
And if I do, the age old question remains: who ends the conversation, you or me?

I’ve often hear that “likes” without comments come across as “insincere” and “they probably didn’t even read my post”.
But honestly, have you ever received a comment with “Great post!” or “👍👍👍👍”
Or “Congrats, you deserved it” after you wrote one of those award posts?
I deserve it, really?

Speaking of finding an easy way to pretend you actually read someone’s post.

Valentino

Not to mention all the spam I’ve been seeing lately.
Please STOP promoting your blog in my comments section! (Unless it’s a reference to a post that is within the topic – I actually like that).

And here’s the annoying part.
I just check my SPAM folder.
So many lovely comments from months ago are in there.
WHAT THE HECK, WORDPRESS?!?!?!?!?!?!

Receiving comments is also something I fear after I write one of my “unpopular opinion” posts.
My aim is definitely tell my experience with the topic.
And if not handled carefully, the experience can easily turn into a very harsh opinion.

I was particularly scared after I published my post My opinion about #METOO
Some have noticed I definitely wanted to say more around this topic.
I did. You probably can even guess what that was.
But in today’s world, words can get easily twisted.

And that happened.
Someone accused me of “obviously” not knowing what the #METOO movement is all about and that I should stop defending men.
Even the innocent men, because they have just let it happen.
Never mind the fact that I clearly described feeling harassed by a women recently and this female comment writer didn’t stand up for me either.

How very fair of her.

And then very recently I got extremely disappointed by the comment section.
In my post 3 years I speak about the ups and downs of my relationship.
I also posted a silly picture of us because despite the difficult time we had some very fun moments, which does include sillyness.

Someone completely neglected what the story was actually about.
They posted a mean comment about the picture.
It made me both angry and sad on such a remarkable day.
This was a great reminder for me why I started avoiding the outside world.

If it wasn’t for all the other lovely people who were very supportive and sweet, I probably would have deleted my entire site and left without an explanation or goodbye.

It’s true, I’m sensitive.
I don’t have a “Screw them” mentality and I never will.
A hurtful comment will stick with me more and longer than 10 lovely comments.

I have considered disabling the comment section.
But I’d miss the interaction.
I’d miss hearing your opinion.
Because that is what blogging makes an amazing experience.

So let’s keep on disagreeing with each other in a respectful and amazing way! 🙂

56 thoughts on “About the comment section

  1. I understand how you feel. I almost disabled them, as well. I like the interaction, but I want the comments to be business-like, along with friendly.

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  2. Comments are actually a feedback to the writer that yes your content is reached in the way you have written it.. and genuine feedback encourage the writer to do best for readers… Feel bad to hear people rude on this beautiful blogging platform..

    Not all are same, continue your Journey happily !! 🙂 !!

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    1. Interesting! I’ve never gotten any feedback on my writing style nor my obviously not native English vocabulary. I would be very open to that actually.

      Thank you! Most of them are nice though, so I am focusing on that 🙂

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      1. That’s actually something I got grief for in the past. I would comment on some mistakes (aside from content comments), and I had people say: “This is for fun/ I don’t care about this”, or “English is not my native language, so back off”. So I’m careful about saying anything anymore.

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      2. I don’t spend much time on re-reading my post. When I read it aloud to Jasper (he is too lazy to read himself 😉), I see some really stupid mistakes or words I forget.

        I don’t mind people correcting me at all in the comment section. I’d edit the post and then delete the comments. It wiyld be emberrasing (I probabla wrote that word wrong) to have such a comment in each post 😭

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  3. Comment sections are definite death traps on line… My first post on my blog was about that actually xD It’s hard to avoid and there’s a sick fascination with the negativity in those sections. A lot of times, people leaving mean or aggressive comments would never say them to your face. It can be a toxic environment, for sure, so I get your iffy feelings on comment sections. I haven’t seen that so much on blogs, though. I see lots of supportive comments, so all you can do is focus on those I guess 😦

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    1. It’s actually about 5 people who keep coming back to my blog and leave something mean or pretend to be the know-it-all.
      I’m so sick and tired of them and would love to block them or tell everyone to not accept to their blog.
      I’m definitely focusing on the good things, but I just can’t deal with mean people. UGGHHH

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      1. Yes..just block them and keep doing the great work you are doing on your blog.. I always look forward to your posts and you are a few of those people, whose posts I want to comment..so, please don’t remove the comment section..😊 Have a nice and happy weekends.. 😍

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      2. That’s really obnoxious that people like to pick on the same person online… Ya think they’d have something better to do. Sadly life is full of mean people and there’s no way to avoid them so all you can do is learn to deal with them 😟

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  4. I wouldn’t say likes without comments comes across as insincere. I guess it depends from person to person. Sometimes I can’t think of what to write in response to what I just read, or I find myself content and satisfied with having absorbed the blogger’s post but not feeling the need to write a comment.

    How horrible to get mean comments! That kind of stuff does still hurt long after the user’s comment has been deleted or the user has been blocked. 😦 Some people are idiots…

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    1. I agree!
      In fact, sometimes I read the post and really like it but don’t feel commenting on it. I leave without hitting the “like” button became I’d feel guilty for not commeting! 😥
      There us too much pressure these days!!

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  5. The only time a link from me would show in your comments is if I was linking to your blog or sharing info on topic. I think posting links to my blog on yours to try and get views is horribly rude. I enjoy your posts, I like if I’ve enjoyed reading, I comment if I have something to add. I like being able to comment on people’s blogs and I enjoy yours a lot – don’t let the losers get you down. They really aren’t worth it 😊

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    1. It doesn’t make sense either! You can easily click on someone’s picture to check out their site. And if it was a good comment, 90% of the time you will.
      People need to start realizing that is the best marketing for themselves!

      And thank you 🙂

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      1. I agree! No one wants to follow a pushy person who’s only out for themselves – I don’t want to read a blog from such a self centred muppet! I click on a lot of blogs from comments. The ones that annoy me are the ones who spam with 10 plus likes in one go but don’t follow! If you like a blog that much why aren’t you following?! That’s someone I’ll ignore too

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  6. Internet provides a great platform where people feel their actions have little or no consequence apparently and hence they take little precaution before saying anything. It is high time people need to understand the mental agony is caused by their caustic words !
    Great post 🙂

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  7. I agree with you. And do not block yourself away from the mean and nasty people.. I can totally get it how disturbing it can be when you got that comment on such a touchy post but just forget it. They are not in your place you are. And nobody gets to pull you down. You are amazing!!!

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  8. Please forgive me, but I am one of those who have commented “Great Post”. It is certainly not meant to be insincere and Yes, I read the post in it’s entirety. I do that sometimes when just a ‘Like’ won’t suffice.

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    1. You might have done that every now and then, but you don’t that consistenly on every post. Trust me, you’re not the type I was talking about! 🙂

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  9. 1. If you ever leave without saying anything (at least to me), I will be very upset. (insert your doodles such as cranky carrot)
    2. I check my spam folder regularly. It can act up every now and then and hide valid content.
    3. About the “self promotion” comments – I flat out delete them as of late. In the beginning, I allowed them, then I edited them (and said, comment edited by me). If the comment is about my post + their link, I edit. If it’s just “please visit +link” I delete.

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    1. 1. 😏 you’d miss me ha?
      I’m going to expand on the fruits & veggies doodles. Bitchy Beet, Cranky Carrot and Crabby Cucumber are soon getting new friends.

      2. I have only found out about that yesterday! I was shocked!

      3. I delete those too. People come across as way too desperate!

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      1. Ah no worries at all.
        I’m always scared that when people don’t answer me, I accendiately sent to the wrong person.
        I’d keep on checking my “sent items” to assure myself, 😅

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  10. You can delete any spam comments and the comments you don’t like right in your dashboard. Leaving a like after reading a post just means the person didn’t have a comment on that subject you were writing about or they are trying to get all caught up reading the post in their reader. I would imagine some people are following to many blogs to have the time to comment on everyone they read. I would be sitting here at my computer all day if I tried to comment on every post I read.

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  11. Your honesty and the way you are so blunt, makes the blog experience so refreshing. I admire your personality since I came across your blog and you don’t have to care of what people think or say, because you are unique, trust me! I know most of us bloggers are chasing the likes, more followers, comparing ourselves to others, but the truth is the world is big enough and has space for all of us! And I agree with you, if you haven’t read the whole post do not comment. Putting just a like, I don’t see any problem, as long, as people are being honest and they like at least the theme or content in that post… Anyway I love your blog, especially the way you communicate🙂

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  12. I’m glad you didn’t delete your blog or disable your comment section. I’d miss talking with you!

    There’s this guy who used to comment rude shit to me all the time & I told him to “fuck off” & he was like “I thought you were looking to hear opinions. I’m sorry” now he changed his photo & stopped commenting for a few months. Just recently a got a sweet comment from him??? I hate these internet trolls!

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  13. even if I just leave a “like” I always read the whole post, as I hope people do the same for me. I comment if I have something to add or if “like” just doesn’t cover it. And I really like comments on my blog, it’s not a lecture it’s a discussion. I do want it to be civil, however.

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  14. I definitely like more posts than I comment on, but all my likes are genuine. Sometimes there isn’t anything to say, or someone else already said it. Plus I follow a lot of style blogs and there are only so many times you can say ‘cute outfit!’ without looking like a bot! But I like to leave a little something so people know I stopped by and enjoyed what they wrote. Unfortunately these days people are very quick to share their ‘opinion’ without thought for the feelings of others, and then say they are ‘just being honest’ but those people just aren’t kind and not worth bothering yourself about. It’s inevitable there will be one or two sometimes, but your blog gets more interaction than any of the others I follow which is a testament to how much you engage your readers and that’s something to be proud of – don’t let the one or two bad ones get you down or stop you doing what you enjoy 😊

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