I once helped a friend preparing for her job interview.
We got to the topic of “strengths and
“You are quite competitive, aren’t you?”, I said.
“I am, but is that a good or bad thing?”, she looked panicked, “doesn’t that indicate me as a sore loser?”.
I used compete in quite some chess tournaments, but there was one I was particularly keen on.
I actually never won the thing.
I did know that the top 3 would always get a special announcement in the newspaper.
Thus, I could live with the 2nd or 3rd place.
More important was the interview.
The news reporters would always search for the most interesting person to write an article about.
And who would be more fascinating than the only girl who consistently fought her way to the top 3 😉
Each time I’d bring a trophee home, the first question my parents would ask
“Did your friends and other competitors congratulate you?”.
This indeed was not always the case.
Parents conclusion: “How rude. They are probably just jealous”.
Then there was that one awful year.
I ended up on the 5th place.
Worst of all, I lost to a friend.
She only ended up 3rd because she got lucky.
Words of a sore loser.
Along with that, rumors started.
Andrea must be pissed off. Jealous even.
Pissed off for sure. I made a stupid move in a game which I could have easily won.
I was. But only because she was rubbing it in.
It’s easy to call someone a sore loser.
But I like to believe there is more than one person guilty of that.
The loser who can’t handle a bit of competition.
The overly proud winner.
And all the other people provoking and spreading rumors about jealousy.
What makes someone sore loser? Do others influence that?
Are you competitive? Do you think that’s a good or bad quality?