Things I did differently when I was single

Have you ever been told by a friend how boring you have become now that you are in a relationship?
No more partying. No more late night phone calls. No more chasing good looking (wo)men.

As much as we hate admit it, there might a be a sense of truth in it.
On Saturday night, the two of you most likely will be found on a your comfortable couch, sipping tea, covered by a blanket.

The KLM app blinked and informed me I could check in.
I filled out my details and then got the option where I could pick my chair.

I grinned.
I remember how I used to always take the middle seat of the three.
If there wasn’t a cute guy on right, there might be one the left.

Nowadays I wouldn’t torture myself like that.
I take the seat at the aisle, either all the way in the front or in the back.

Most business travels I have taken, were on my own.
Which I considered to be convenient. I could “flirt” without annoying colleagues getting into my way.

I’d always pick a hotel with a bar where you would see in drinking orange juice till late in the evening. Party on.
Of course with all hopes up high that someone from the other gender was doing the same, looking for a conversation.

I’d send myself a text message which would produce a funny ringtone.
The guy would laugh and a conversation has started.

I’d pretend I’d was lost in a large city.
Hoping that the good looking man would join me finding that historic museum I wasn’t interested in one bit.

I’d go out alone to an idyllic coffee place trying to get someone’s eye contact.

I’d bump into someone by “accident”.

These actions make me giggle now.
They seem somewhat desperate, but some of them have lead me into a date.

What is your biggest flirting technique?
How did you “give up doing” when you transferred from single to relationship?


14 thoughts on “Things I did differently when I was single

  1. I don’t know if it’s a question of giving somethings up when you enter a relationship I see it as gaining so much more.

    I feel more confident now than I ever did when I was single even though I’ve put on a lot of weight.

    I used to go out a lot with friends drinking bars nightclubs etc but I think I would’ve stopped that with working full time and being a little bit older anyway. I do still see friends but we don’t hit clubs, we go out for meals, go to bars and pubs instead.

    I think you have to try to enjoy being single – enjoy getting to know yourself more on your own without being in a relationship. I wish I’d done that more.

  2. One of the things I gained in a relationship is also weight ๐Ÿ˜‰
    I prefer myself in a relationship, I did give things up. Or postponed at least.
    Such as my wish to live abroad. Moving in with the boyfriend also meant moving further away from friends.

    But by all means, I prefer myself in a relationship ๐Ÿ™‚

  3. Life is easier if youโ€™re just being apprroached!
    But I quite liked the โ€œgameโ€ of approaching someone ๐Ÿ˜„

    Thank you!

  4. I guess I was lonely at that time.
    I lived in a small town abroad and each time I made friends, they decided to go back to their home country. So I was definitely looking for company all the time.

    AHA, so now we know. Goldie (still don’t know what gender) has a partner ๐Ÿ˜€

  5. Ahah thatโ€™s soooo funny!!!! Getting the seat in the middle because if you donโ€™t have a good looking guy in your right, it might be on your left: thatโ€™s genius! I used to do a lot of traveling when I was dating, as the guys I liked were always in other towns or cities. Iโ€™ve always been bossy but I travelled for them. Then one day I took an airplane to follow one boy and now we are getting married! You really never know in life!

  6. It’s was very uncomfortable! Haha.
    I only once had a meet up with someone I spoke to on the internet. But traveled to me.
    He married just recently, but not to me ๐Ÿ˜‰ We always remained some sort of friends.

    Your story is wonderful! I’m so happy to hear that something like that can happen ๐Ÿ™‚

  7. Ha I’d never not been boring ๐Ÿ˜‰
    I never really flirt. I think I naturally have a playful disposition (which is a phrase I really like from Jane Austen’s novels actually hah) but I’m self-conscious about making sure I don’t come off flirty if I’m not into the guy. If I am into the guy, there is no such thing as flirty. I just go into automatic awkward, possibly violent, mode. Don’t ask xD

  8. The way I make eye contact is not in the traditional “cute” way. I just stare at them really intensely, hoping they will look back. It’s actually very creepy haha.

    I’m awkward too, but if you find someone equally awkward, like I did, it might just work out ๐Ÿ˜‰

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