About pride

My mum grew up on a farm in a small village, somewhere hidden in the woods of Bosnia.
According to her own story, she had to walk every day 20 km to school.
On her way there she would meet black bears and dangerous snakes.
While I have a hard time believing exactly that, I do believe she lived far from any kind of proper civilization.

Dad grew up near a slightly larger town.
But both my parents hadn’t experienced a modern world raised up with conservative mindset.

Some time mid 90’s, we moved to Holland. Liberal, extravagant Holland.
Yet, we didn’t notice so much of it since we got to live in a modest sized town near the German border.

Mum and dad went to language school and learned about some of the aspects of the Dutch culture.
Some of which were nice: wind mills, the social system and the Dutch coziness.
Some of which were more shocking: toleration of drugs and prostitution.

We decided to expand the cultural aspects by taking a trip to Amsterdam, on a random day.
Little did we know that on that particular day, the pride parade was happening.
Loud music, drunk people and men dancing around in pink underwear made my eyes go wide open. Which my mum quickly covered.
Needless to say, our trip didn’t last too long.

Over the course of the weeks I had many  confusions about what I saw.
Some of the questions my parents couldn’t answer because they had no clue either.
Some of the questions my parents wanted to keep a taboo.

June  is the LGBT pride month.
So I thought this might have been the perfect moment to share my first with this yearly festival.
It’s not insult to anyone, it’s simply sharing my experience!!

I don’t have an opinion nor an issue about/with the LGBT community.
I either like or dislike all people equally.

I do have certain views on “pride” in general.
People are insecure about themselves so the term “pride” got lifted to a higher dimension.

Some time back I was asked what I’m most proud of.

Proud My career achievements?

Not really, I am really just following the normal path of life and took some of the opportunities that were presented to me on a silver platter.
I never worked really longer than my 40 hour / week contract unless I’d get paid for it or get days off in return.

Proud of my gender?
If one gender remains this extreme pride, we will never reach equality. That’s what we want, right? 

Proud of my curves and body in general?
As far as I noticed, everyone has a body (?)
And anyone who wants curves, I can give my easy to main diet of  cakes and pasta’s.

Proud when I got into that ski lift while I’m extremely afraid of heights?
I’d say that might have been one of the worst decisions ever.
I didn’t overcome my fear. I might got worst.

The one thing  I can be proud of is on days when I don’t give into my anxiety.

I can be really proud of achievements of the people I love.
But only if they’re modest about.
If they start bragging, there is no need for my pride really 😉

How do you feel about pride in general?
Do you have any experience with LGBT pride parade?

23 thoughts on “About pride

  1. I dont care for the parade. Not the parade in general but because the ones ive seen didnt elevate but seemed more of a flamboyant mockery. I equally dislike twerking straight females and overly macho straight men.
    I have had many gay and lesbian friends in life and my uncle is also gay but their sexual preference has never caused any of them to behave as cartoonized over the top females nor members of The Village people. They just wanted to be themselves and be accepted as just that.
    If ones sexuality is attached to ” being born thst way…like their looks, height, eye color or any other natural occurrence as claimed, why should it be a source of personal pride? They personally didnt achieve nor work for it. If anything the credit would go to your parents?
    I also caution christians concerning the topic. God also hates sex between unmarried people, adultery, lies, malice, gossip etc and the penalty for all of it is the same and the price was paid for all. He doesn’t seperate big sins and little sins, your sins are worse than mine. We do that. Its wrong. Period. I wont say whats scripturally wrong, right nor will I expect my gay friends to do so with my own sins. But, they are loved by the same God, just as I am, as much as I am.

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    1. This post was difficult to write, but I’m glad you agree with me. 🙂

      I don’t have a problem with any sexuality, gender or race, but I do with attention seekers. And festival like that.
      I think, as you also said, many gay people don’t even want that. Maybe they are even a bit embarrassed of it.

      As for God. It’s not him judging us.
      Us people do it to ourselves. I am very sure he respects us all in the same way.

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  2. I think I do not even have the right to express an opinion on someone elses sexuality, and nor does anyone else. If two people love each other and make each other happy, and nobody is hurt, then they have my blessing and support. I do not care what gender or race they are and it makes me sad that some busybodies make a big deal out of damning relationships that are, frankly, none of their business.

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    1. I recently had a small argument with a male hairdresser. He was gay.
      I didn’t like the way he cut my hair and it wasn’t according to the instructions I had given in the beginning.
      “You came in here with ugly hair and fixed it for you”, he said.

      I got angry and thought “you pathetic gay man”.
      Immediately I had to correct myself, because this had absolutely nothing to do with his sexual preferences.
      It’s silly how we think sometimes.

      The flamboyance of gay pride parades does bother me, but love between two people certainly doesn’t 🙂

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      1. 😄😄. I get what you mean. I felt awkward when having to point out someone to a visitor at work and found lots of ways to describe him without simply saying ‘ the black guy over there’. Which would have been far easier! I am quite happy if someone points me out as the ‘grumpy looking guy’!

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  3. The parade is, for me, a celebration that the LBGT community have the courage now to face down the busybodies. The flamboyance doesn’t bother me but it isn’t my thing either.

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  4. I’m generally supportive of it. Some of my friends are guy and I’m totally ok with it. I don’t see why I wouldn’t. I regularly visit the pride parade in Munich. Great parties.

    I’m proud of my being a mom, of my blog, my professional achievements and of staying relatively sane despite the shit I went through.

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    1. I’m not entirely sure what “supportive” means.
      I don’t mind same gender preference, but I’m not waving the multi-color flag either.

      Staying sane after all that is definitely an accomplishment.
      You’re probably managing better than I am.

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      1. It’s easy for us since we’re majority. They are experiencing a lot of problems on everyday basis, so a walk is one of the ways to draw their attention to the problems they’re facing.

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  5. Interesting thoughts on pride! I’m supportive of the LGBTQ society! I’ve never been to a pride parade, though. I don’t think that’d be my kind of thing. My introverted side kind of shies away from things that are very extravagant and party-like. It does look fun but also just so crowded and hectic haha xD I’d rather be home.

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  6. I attended the LGBT parade in NYC last year for the first time. It was interesting and certainly flamboyant. There was one sign in the parade that made me blush. It said, “I swallow every day”, which of course was a reference to um… certain mechanisms in oral sex between men. It’s parade celebrating LGBT but I think the reference to *that* was a bit unnecessary. As for the colorful costumes people were wearing in the parade, I liked them for their fashion value and what I got from it was that clothes don’t need a gender attached to them. Society does still label certain types of clothes as more feminine or masculine, but I’m a believer in people wearing whatever they like and/or are comfortable with.

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