Most people actually have a reason

I am always in dubio whether to go the gym on weekends.
It’s only open until 3. I feel like if I don’t do it in the morning, I won’t do it all.

Today I woke up extra early to do the work and have the rest of the day to spend with Jasper.
I got in as usual.
I switched into gym shoes as usual.
And left my regular shoes next to the only machine I was going to use, as usual.

I know that “usually” you should put your stuff in the dressing room, but since nobody ever mentioned anything, I assumed nobody minds.
Until this guy, this morning.
He started explaining the house rules and the many codes I had broken.
“Just leave your stuff at the dressing room! What’s the problem?”, he laughed provokingly.

I didn’t say anything, I simply walked away.
What my problem with it was, wasn’t any of his business.

But I do have a reason for avoiding dressing rooms.
I have a reason why I avoid certain roads, people and activities.
I have a reason why I don’t feel the need to sit in the canteen to have lunch.
I have a reason why I change hair color so often.
I have a reason why I shower and clean so often.
I have a reason why I sometimes have second doubts about my job.
I have a reason for most things I seem to do out of the ordinary.

I don’t think I do the world any harm with my reasons.
I don’t think I did the gym any harm by leaving my neat and tidy next to the machine, either.

And even if I did, I wish people could stop saying “What’s your problem?, “Tell me your reason”ย orย “Why not?”.

Trust me, if someone is very resistant on something, they have their very good reasons.
Don’t provoke them.

Do you do things “out of the ordinary” due to bad previous experiences?
How do you deal with with others who do things “differently”?






















22 thoughts on “Most people actually have a reason

  1. Hello Andrea, thanks for the follow on my blog, so I thought I would return the favor and check out some of your stuff too. Really thought-provoking post! Honestly, I really think that people need to get off their high horse and stop telling other people what to do when its really none of their damn business. That guy had NO business telling you what rules of the gym you had broken, and it is infuriating that he had the audacity to sit there and lecture you as if you were a child. The nerve!

    As for me, one of the main things I don’t do anymore is fly/travel. I didn’t necessarily have a “bad” experience which inspired that decision, it more like I just can’t be bothered with all that hassle anymore, you know what I mean? The whole taking off of shoes and rigorous security checks, to like waiting in hours on lines for EVERYTHING – getting your plane ticket, waiting to board the plane, carrying around all your luggage – ALL OF IT- is just like UGH! I live in NYC anyway, so literally EVERYTHING – every food, every culture, anything you can think of from around the world is right here somewhere in the city, so do I really need to go travel to anywhere? Other than the actual experience of standing somewhere I had never been before and being in awe of the actual “sights,” there is no reason to go anywhere, so these days I just choose to skip it.

    Phew! Sorry about the ridiculously long ramble there. Your amazing post inspired me! Look forward to reading more of your work. โค


    1. I’m very happy we found each other! I think our minds are alike!

      I so agree with you on the travel! I hate the security check too. One day they really pushed me and I asked them if I should take off my bra because there’s some metal in it too, haha ๐Ÿ˜‰

      But try and tell people that you rather not travel. They will tell you’re insane.
      I have never traveled, other than when my parents dragged me along, until I had saved money to go on proper holiday.

      Thanks so much for your comment! I look forward to read your stuff too! ๐Ÿ™‚

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      1. Aw, I am so happy we found each other too! I can tell by just that one post alone, that or minds are indeed very much alike!

        Phew! I am so glad I wasn’t the only one who felt that way about travel. Girl, you’re totally right – Try and tell people you don’t like travel, they’re like “What? Why not? Don’t you want to be more cultured?” Like epic -eyeroll- man, who the hell are they do define whether or not I am cultured anyway? Some people have a way of judging other people that is just downright close-minded! Haha, that was such an awesome comeback for the security when you told them they should take your bra cause of the metal in it! That was gold, girl, pure gold!!

        So looking forward to being “blogging friends” too!. ๐Ÿ™‚


      2. I actually do, but you know, I am not on there as much as I am on Facebook or Twitter. I mean I would follow you there, but it feels like that is just ANOTHER place I have to keep track of you know what I mean? I am already on an overload of sites, forums and chats and since I really don’t have a use for pictures and all that, Instagram never really appealed to me. But if you want, send me your Instagram name, and I’ll follow you. But I can’t promise I will be as interactive with you there, as I am on here! โค


    2. “Honestly, I really think that people need to get off their high horse and stop telling other people what to do when its really none of their damn business. That guy had NO business telling you what rules of the gym you had broken, and it is infuriating that he had the audacity to sit there and lecture you as if you were a child. The nerve!”
      What if the guy had a reason, too? Like Germophobia?

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      1. I can’t really argue with this ๐Ÿ™‚
        This might very well be the case. Although a gym might not be the best workplace for him then.
        I unfortunately had to let go of jobs/hobbies because they didn’t suit me for my “reasons”.

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      2. I totally understand that could be a possibility. However, if he has Germophobia, does that give him the right to “police” other people in a public place? If you have a condition like that, then its YOUR responsibility to keep yourself safe and not put yourself in situations that can inflame your condition. Quite frankly, if HE has the issue, HE needs to remove himself, not tell other people what to do.


    1. Some of my reasons require more than half an hour explaining and most still wouldnโ€™t get it.
      Itโ€™s simply not worth it.
      But I could always refer them to my blog. Most of the reasons are distributed in my posts ๐Ÿ˜‰

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  2. Oh man. I would have walked away too. What an ass. I am lucky enough to be able to walk to my gym so donโ€™t usually have to carry anything with me. I do on occasion have to though and I have a small bag just big enough for gym clothes and shoes. I will go into the bathroom to change and then have the bag next to the machine I am on. Nobody has said anything and I have seen other people so it too. Maybe that would keep people off your back? I understand not leaving your personal belongings in the locker room too.


    1. I usually don’t wear a coat or anything, even when it’s below zero. But today it was raining.

      I wish he had just left me alone and made me do my work out. Now I lost a day. But like he cares, because I have pre-paid everything for the entire year already.
      But as a trainer, his job is also to keep people motivated and not make them leave with a bad feeling, right?!

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  3. You asked about how I deal with people that do things differently.
    For me that seems like 99.9992 percent of the world, and I struggled with that often.

    I remember, back when I was in management when they were teaching us to work together as a team. The idea was that we were all inside the box, and we were to push together on one side of the box. Great theory, except I didn’t quite get it. Probably bcause the previous seminar was trying to teach us to think outside of the box…. and I struggled with that one because I didn’t know there was a box to think inside of! (not to mention the irony of two backto back management semianrs teaching the opposite concpet

    It is odd being an extrovert who doesn’t quite get the social dynamic of “groupthink”

    How do I survive? THere is a great passage in the Bible, 1 Corinthians 12, that talks about us all being different parts of the body. I just remember that and realize the perspective is different from different parts, including the guy that is the end of the digestive system ๐Ÿ™‚ ( He is avery necessary part of the body…btw)


    1. I have noticed one thing about managers: whenever they just had a session like that, they suddenly want to do things differently. I don’t handle change very well.
      Now, I am (not willingly) in a Management team and have to do all these kind of seminars.

      The bible passage is very interesting! I will remember that one ๐Ÿ™‚
      And yes, I know all about the people at the end of the digestive system ๐Ÿ˜‰


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