When adults don’t think about consequences

Each year in February and June, school would organize “sports day”.
An event which would keep me nervous all year.

Sport at school wasn’t about becoming healthy.
It was about competition.
If you weren’t good at it, you’d never be acknowledged.
Not just by your classmates. By teachers too.

June was worse than February.
The warm weather would give teachers the fantastic idea to organize it at a swimming pool

Not only I was afraid to be judged in old fashion swimming suit my mum would get me, the boys in my class got their hormones pretty early.
My friend and I  were equally nervous about it.
We prayed it would be terrible weather, so the whole thing would be canceled.
We even thought of what would be least painful way to break an arm or leg.

No matter how much I cried to my parents and said how much this frightens me, they were convinced a little exercise is never bad.

The days before that 15th of June, it remained warm and sunny.
My attempt to fall of the stairs failed when my dad stopped me.
Worst of all, my friend got her period for the first time, so she was allowed to skip this one.

The whole day was just one terrible experience and left a scar on my heart and the way I would look at myself for the next few years.
Only because adults thought they were doing the right thing.

I am not a teacher nor parent, so I might not have any right of speech of how difficult this job is.
Yet, sometimes it’s not a bad thing to actually listen to the child’s fear and not push them to edge.
Especially when puberty, which is difficult enough phase, is around the corner.

15 thoughts on “When adults don’t think about consequences

  1. Ah sports day. The absolute worst thing in school. We called ours field day and I would always get picked on. I completely understand how you felt! Those were awful!

  2. Sports are promoted in a very wrong way to young kids. It’s always running, football or baseball.
    You can only promote health through sport if people actually enjoy it!

    Does your son likes it?

  3. Likewise! My teacher would only be satisfied if I’d cough up a lung! Ugh.
    And indeed, next tot the physical aspect, there is that mental humiliation!

    Such experience didn’t make it me stronger, unfortunately. The made me criticize myself.

  4. I think it’s about finding the right sport for you. I found out later I like dancing (doesn’t mean I’m good at it 😉 ) and I am also quite flexible. So anything like that suits me.

    But due to these bad childhood experiences, it did take me a while to figure that out.

  5. Oh, this is terrible. I have, by far, known no child who hasn’t been predisposed with fears solely because of the parents. I hope you found your sport. I’m sorry you had to go through that. We’re here for you. 🙂

  6. Ugh this reminds me of when I got my first REAL period (the actual first one was 3 months prior and like nothing) during our Gr 8 class trip to Ottawa. It was awful, I’ll never forget it.

  7. Hahah. The first time I got my period I thought I was bleeding to death! My mum hadn’t informed me too much and honestly I didn’t even wanted to know.
    When it actually happened, it hit me hard.
    Your girls are still too young, but when the times comes, I think it would be good to prepare them on the monthly horror they are going to face 😐

  8. Omg that sucks!
    I hope my girls end up being late bloomers like myself but I doubt it. My husbands side develops early and most of the girls get their periods at a young age. One ended up getting hers at 9! I couldn’t even imagine.

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