Should you have your life together in your 20’s?

“How old are you again?”, I asked the friend I met over dinner, “27?”
she laughed, “30 in few months! And already now people are reminding me of all the things I should have achieved: get married, buy a house, have children. Pff”.

Because of these “advices”,  us 90’s babies might feel a great pressure to get our life together in our twenties.

When I applied for my current job, my manager was in doubt if I could actually handle a tough job like this.
It took me 4 months, but I finally convinced him. But he did give me a “Junior” position.
My previous jobs haven’t even been that.
But, since the money wasn’t really junior, I was more than fine with it.

Nowadays, my colleagues do like to mention that fact.
I am the newest, the youngest, the one without children. Therefore, the baby of the department.

But that’s not how I feel!
I feel at least 70! Mentally and sometimes even physically.
A friend mentioned “You were probably born old”.

I can’t even argue with him.
Thanks to the influence of my parents, I have been worrying about finances, getting a great job, buying a house and be married with children since the age of 11.

I’m 27 now and it seems like I do have most things in place.
Jasper just has to pull a ring on my finger and I will push out a baby.
But am I ready for all that??

NO! Definitely not yet.
Not only I want to live in a nicer house, have a better savings account and travel to a couple more places, I also want to make a few more “mistakes”, before I can teach a tiny human being some valuable life lessons.
Your 20’s are the perfect timing to discover all this.

Jasper is 7 years older than me, so I would compare myself to him a lot.
It does seem like he has it all together, which frustrates me.
I want to be at that phase in my life as well!

Often he would remind me that in my age, he also made mistakes at work, damaged his car more than once and definitely didn’t not have the salary which I have today.

That reminder is a relief.
Even though people seem calm and sophisticated, we all go through the same learning process, including the struggles related to that.
You will never stop learning, but each year get wiser and more self aware.


11 thoughts on “Should you have your life together in your 20’s?

  1. I mean congratulations for achieving all this in your twenties. I am worried that by the time I will be 30 I would hardly have a job or any savings. There is so much to do and I am so bad at managing things.

  2. I don’t know your age or you education background, but in the end I am sure you will find a job. And then you will have to prioritize on what you want to achieve first.
    Also, if you find the right partner, it will get easier financially 🙂

  3. You’re only 27. You have plenty of time for marriage and kids. I’m surprised your parents aren’t pushing for both though. Mine did!
    Take your time, have fun, and enjoy being you. Once you have a kid, you’re life will change for 18 years (or more). 😀

  4. Ohhh trust me, they are. I just don’t live very nearby them, so they can’t visit me frequently to tell me this 😉

    There is plenty of time, but if you want children, it doesn’t mean it’s going to happen on the first try. Maybe we can’t even have children. And then, it can take pretty long 😦

  5. “…pull a ring on my finger and I’ll push out a baby.” Made me literally laugh out loud! And by the way, you will never feel your age. One day you will be 54, (cough, cough). Then your mind will feel 18, but your body feel 70. Just sayin’! 😉

  6. I don’t have everything together at 53… nor do I expect to at 73, should God give me 20 more years.

    To be honest, I don’t think that is the purpose of our journey in life, for those who “get there” are often the ones that come to me, realizing that that “there” doesn’t provide the contentment that they thought it would.

    The Old Testament has a great line, about what God has deigned for us to be, to act justly, to love mercy, to walk humbly with Him. I have found contentment (when I remember that’s what i am doing) on the journey… and to be honest, it is the journey I don’t want to ever end.

  7. One step at a time darling, one step at a time. I’m in my 30s and retired already, when I went to collect my retirement benefits I raised a few eye brows. Right now, I mostly volunteer and blog of course. The fact is we never know what life has for us, this is why I said “one step at a time”

  8. I, too, feel that in today’s world the 20s are for… figuring how “adulting” works. I bet you will be just fine. I, too, feel like an old soul. But often act like a kid (I think everyone needs to in order to stay sane), so yes, “age IS just a number”.

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