“How old are you again?”, I asked the friend I met over dinner, “27?”
“Noooo”, she laughed, “30 in few months! And already now people are reminding me of all the things I should have achieved: get married, buy a house, have children. Pff”.
Because of these “advices”, us 90’s babies might feel a great pressure to get our life together in our twenties.
When I applied for my current job, my manager was in doubt if I could actually handle a tough job like this.
It took me 4 months, but I finally convinced him. But he did give me a “Junior” position.
My previous jobs haven’t even been that.
But, since the money wasn’t really junior, I was more than fine with it.
Nowadays, my colleagues do like to mention that fact.
I am the newest, the youngest, the one without children. Therefore, the baby of the department.
But that’s not how I feel!
I feel at least 70! Mentally and sometimes even physically.
A friend mentioned “You were probably born old”.
I can’t even argue with him.
Thanks to the influence of my parents, I have been worrying about finances, getting a great job, buying a house and be married with children since the age of 11.
I’m 27 now and it seems like I do have most things in place.
Jasper just has to pull a ring on my finger and I will push out a baby.
But am I ready for all that??
NO! Definitely not yet.
Not only I want to live in a nicer house, have a better savings account and travel to a couple more places, I also want to make a few more “mistakes”, before I can teach a tiny human being some valuable life lessons.
Your 20’s are the perfect timing to discover all this.
Jasper is 7 years older than me, so I would compare myself to him a lot.
It does seem like he has it all together, which frustrates me.
I want to be at that phase in my life as well!
Often he would remind me thatm in my age, he also made mistakes at work, damaged his car more than once and definitely didn’t not have the salary which I have today.
That reminder is a relief.
Even though people seem calm and sophisticated, we all go through the same learning process, including the struggles related to that.
You will never stop learning, but each year get wiser and more self aware.