On the first night in our recent trip we were woken up by a couple next door loudly arguing in the middle of the night.
There was shouting, crying and smashing things for at least 4 straight hours.
I was slightly annoyed because I wanted to sleep.
Yet, also curious what possibly had gone so wrong that all this fuss was needed.
The Irish have an unusual accent, so it was difficult to understand.
I did catch two things.
The girl: “How could you have chosen this stupid hotel!?”
Truth to be told, the hotel did look a lot better on the pictures.
Some time later.
The guy: “I don’t care about you as you want me to. I am just not as attracted to you as you are to me”.
This was an obvious lie, because the next evening we heard VERY different sounds from the room next door 😉
As an observer, fights sound very ugly. And it made me feel embarrassed for all the outbursts I had.
During my teenage year I had my fair share of arguments with my parents.
Today’s day, I still have them once a while with my boyfriend.
Horrible, unfair and not truth statements would be said, only to find out later that you regret them all.
Arguing doesn’t solve anything.
It takes a lot of energy.
It’s never about anything life changing or important.
And you will never prove your point.
The method that does prove to be very effective is to sit down and discuss what has been bothering you in a calm but honest way.
Instead of blaming someone, you actually search for a solution together.
The outcome might not be necessarily ideal, but doing things in a peaceful matter does give a better chance for things to work out.
How do you handle a difference in opinion?
Do you become emotional or angry? Or do you stay calm?