Once I went on business trip with a colleague.
I was the newest addition in the team and still felt quite shy to interact with people.
This trip was an opportunity to get to know one of them and if that went well, he could help me merge into the group.
I am usually good with one on one.
What possible could go wrong?
We met at the airport and had 1.5 hour to spend before the plane would arrive.
I asked if his trip to the airport was ok.
“It was fine”, he answered shortly.
I told him how difficult mine was. Also in the hope he could drop me of on the way back because I knew he would pass the town I lived in.
Rather than complaining, I tried to put some humor into it.
He hummed a times while nervously checking his phone.
Later at dinner I tried to ask about his hobbies and his work.
It seemed like embarrassing interview.
It was clear that we were never going to be anything more than a minimum level op politeness to each other.
The next morning, in the hotel, I decided to have breakfast super early. Only to avoid awkward silences with him.
Guess what? He had the same plan.
UGH. There was no other option then just quietly sitting at the same table and eat the food.
There have been a couple more instances where chemistry between me and the other person was lacking.
Contrarily, I’d start conversation with a random person on the train and we’d be bursting out in laughter, sharing a beer or singing Christmas song in the middle of July.
Not always have these occasions been able to end in friendship, but knowing how easily you can have a “click” with someone, is AWESOME.
I don’t know what necessarily the depending factors are.
Perhaps a certain mood both persons have to be in?
Certain countries you both have visited?
Social media made easier to find out stuff like that about people.
And I’ll be honest, I do search people up.
Once I got to know that one of the colleagues also studied Power Electronics, I knew I could break the ice by telling that I named one of my fish after an electrical component.
And as expected, he totally got the humor.
I am, however, one of those that has unconventional interests.
I hardly ever meet someone who likes chess, moose or go crazy over the Eurovision Song Contest (don’t worry if you are not from Europe and don’t know it 😉 )
Yet, when it does happen, it’s magical 🙂
Do you feel often that “click” with people? How does it make you feel?
Do you look people up on social media to help the “natural chemistry” a bit in the right direction?