As a child I often complained to my parents why we didn’t go holidays every year, why they didn’t buy super expensive clothes and why we couldn’t afford the actual coca cola brand instead of the cheap artificial one.
My parents were from the lower paid class.
My dad’s an electrician, my mum’s a stay at home mum.
Despite the underrated salary, they did their uppermost best to make the house a home, save money for more fancy clothes or vacations and raise up two children providing them with a good education.
I don’t think I appreciated all of this until only a few years back.
I got to know people of my age who told me that they were quite spoiled, but on the downside, hardly ever get to see their parents.
Looking back, I do have nice memories of my youth.
On a cold day, mum would await with tea and cookies. On a hot day, she would have ice cold self made lemonade.
Dad would start early at work, but always arrive home before dinner (which we had at 5 o’clock).
In the evening he and I would go for a walk. We talked about the day and worries I had. These “walk & talks” have helped me tremendously.
Life was simple, but filled with love.
I am now getting at the age (27) where slowly I could think of children.
Me and my boyfriend’s work life is completely different than that of my parents.
We both get up early, work for 8-9 hours and then are stuck in traffic.
However, both our salaries do allow us to buy whatever we want at the supermarket and go on vacation 3-4 times a year.
The time we have in a regular day is limited.
And as for now it’s OK.
But if we decide to have children, one of us going to have to take a step back.
For all I know, we’re both too proud of it (as it is now).
I read a lot of blogs of mommies who have chosen to raise of their children instead of “dumping” them at a baby sitter or grandparents.
I think it’s an incredibly brave step and most definitely you will make your child’s future happier and safer. I know I benefit from it, despite not having the “luxuries” which most my classmates did have.