The worst advice I’ve ever got, was
“If I were you, I would definitely consider it”.

If you were me? Or, if you were in my position?
And, consider it? There’s that word again.

Some people are too proud to ask for advice, the “I can figure it out on my own” type of people.
That’s not me.
Although, I hardly ever ask for advice.
Gathering opinions. Set up a list of pro’s and cons. Thinking things through until it makes me desperate. It doesn’t work for me.
In my world, if I have to to “consider” something, it’s probably not the thing I really wanted.
I make my decisions rapidly.

Sometimes people give also you unasked advice.
“If I were you…”
Again if “I were you”? What about if you’d be yourself?

Giving advice is not always easy either.
Maybe you haven’t been in a similar situation as a the “advice asker”, so it might be hard to imagine what it’s like.
Maybe you don’t want to give away your best recipe so that someone achieves better than you.
And maybe you just don’t want to talk about their problems.

I have been bothered by the lack of the advice people have asked me for.
I can’t necessarily blame them. I somehow am always the youngest and of course the don’t know my background story, nor all the failures I have learned from.

It’s often said “Be careful whose advice you buy”, but I’d say “be careful whose advice you ask for”.
Sometimes other people do not know best.
More often you know what what will make you happy.

At the same time, if someone asks you for advice, be careful not to confuse them.

And if you’re, like me, not often asked to give advice, you can always start blogging about your experiences without giving any direct advice, like I do ๐Ÿ˜‰













9 thoughts on “Advice

  1. Indeed, what i hate is teacher approach from some people. If i wish advice, i will ask. If i don’t like advice i got i will tell i don’t like. Sometimes people give advice from high position, as they want to humiliate you. The best advices are objective, and from people who know you well.


  2. Sounds like a therapist since they answer every question with a question. Thatโ€™s why I blog. I would rather ask people that donโ€™t know me. But I make decisions way too carefully. You saw my pros and cons list about moving! ๐Ÿ˜€


    1. Yeah I remember your list! I really can’t do something like that, it’s either an instant yes or a no.
      I should be a bit more careful with my decision.
      Next time I will have to make on, I will post in on here with a list!

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