Why do we, woman, wear make-up?
About 99% of the females would step up and answer this with “I’m not doing it for anyone, but myself”.

Yet we also feel the need to post a  “no filter, zero make-up” picture on social media with text “here’s to being vulnerable”?

Why do we stay just 3 minutes longer at work after our manager has left the building?
Just to show him we place work above our private life?
That the hours you stay  on your seat count more than the actual efficient work you’ve produced?

Who do we feel need to train for months and months just the to achieve that six pack/bikini body?
Isn’t the beach for relaxing, soaking up some vitamin D and get a away from the day to day stress?

Why do we clean our house extra when someone comes to visit?

Do we do all those things just to get a little bit of attention?
Grasp for a compliment? A thumbs up?  3 million likes?
A salary raise? A pat on the back? Or that “well done” smile from a distance?

When I started this job I asked my manager “How will I know that I do my job good enough?”.
He told me that as long nobody says anything, all is fine.
I knew then already that I wasn’t going to end up in a compliment culture.

But I will be honest here, a genuine compliment does motivate me.

As far as I can remember, during my career I got only one.
It was from a manager within my first job.
We were in discussion with another department that all these safety measures for our technicians, that our department took care of, take too much time and money.
I wrote an email that safety of people should ALWAYS be our first priority.

My manager rewarded me with a smile he drew with the text “PROUD”  on a post-it and placed it on my desk.

For 4 years, that genuine smiley has been my motivation.

Here’s a replica of the smiley, in case you need it 🙂










9 thoughts on “Compliments

  1. I really like your posts. I definitely think that’s true about women and mahe-up. I genuinely love it, but I am a cosplayer, and that does not mean I am not still conditioned to some point. 🤞🏼🖤


    1. Haha. I like make up too actually!
      I’m just very bad at it and mostly pick a too dark foundation and don’t get me started poking my eye out when applying eyeliner, haha.
      Make up can definitely highlight your face, but it’s not a shame to occasionally not wear it.

      Thanks for your lovely comment 🙂
      Do you have an instagram page where you post your cosplay outfits by chance?

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      1. No infortunately. I would love to do it more, but since last year I have mainly been at home and that cosplay stuff was before Instagram. I do it whenever Zi get the chance, but that ain’t much. Because Zi can do it on Halloween that is most of the pics that I have.


      2. I don’t even use foundation. Usually just some lip gloss and eye color. When I am dressing up or when I need it I do use a cream blush and add some color to my primer and mix my gloss with lipstick. I do use a toner though. I post my selfies elks for my site in Instagram. I suppose fashion would be interesting with my spell work.


      3. That’s cool! I go through phases, but not wearing make up saves a lot of time in the morning!
        If you want, we can exchange instagram? You can add me on my name: Benkonator90 🙂

        I love halloween for the dress up. Wish it was bigger in Europe!

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      4. Ok you can find my Instagram on my contacts me page. I apologize that I can not give you my UTL. My computer is not working and the iPhone won’t let me copy it. That sounds awesome!!! ❤️😀 I always wanted to see Europe. I think we always feel that way with where we belong. It’s never perfect.


  2. I agree that we do live in a compliment culture and sometimes people can be ridiculous about it but I also believe that positivity is contagious. I think that a little note or comment can at times make someone’s day. If it’s genuine and not the result of someone fishing for it, I say spread it around as much as you can. 🙂


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