Why do we, woman, wear make-up?
About 99% of the females would step up and answer this with “I’m not doing it for anyone, but myself”.
Yet we also feel the need to post a “no filter, zero make-up” picture on social media with text “here’s to being vulnerable”?
Why do we stay just 3 minutes longer at work after our manager has left the building?
Just to show him we place work above our private life?
That the hours you stay on your seat count more than the actual efficient work you’ve produced?
Who do we feel need to train for months and months just the to achieve that six pack/bikini body?
Isn’t the beach for relaxing, soaking up some vitamin D and get a away from the day to day stress?
Why do we clean our house extra when someone comes to visit?
Do we do all those things just to get a little bit of attention?
Grasp for a compliment? A thumbs up? 3 million likes?
A salary raise? A pat on the back? Or that “well done” smile from a distance?
When I started this job I asked my manager “How will I know that I do my job good enough”. He told me that as long nobody says anything, all is fine.
I knew then already that I wasn’t going to end up in a compliment culture.
But I will be honest here, a genuine compliment does motivate me.
As far as I can remember, during my career I got only one. It was from a manager within my first job.
We were in discussion with another department that all these safety measures for our technicians, that our department took care of, take too much time and money.
I wrote an email that safety of people should ALWAYS be our first priority.
My manager rewarded me with a smile he drew with the text “PROUD” on a post-it and placed it on my desk.
For 4 years, that genuine smiley has been my motivation.
Here’s a replica of the smiley, in case you need it 🙂