Today’s youth

The first time I shouted out I wanted to be a boy was around the age of 12.
It was on that day that I officially became a “woman” and was surprised by humongous pains and discomfort.

I asked my dad if he also had to deal with this on a monthly basis.
He laughed, while handing me a nice cup of hot tea, and said “boys don’t have to experience this, that’s why we are the weaker gender”.
His words of comfort didn’t work on me until 4 days later, when everything was back to “normal”.

Apart from the monthly womanly occasions, I have never thought about whether I was happy with the gender that I am. I really don’t care, except for the fact I really do believe living as a woman is a bit more expensive.

Kids, nowadays, seem to be convinced from a very early age whether they are happy with their gender or whether they going to fall in love with the opposite gender.

I will be be honest, I am quite empty-headed about his topic.
My main concern as a child was which flavor of ice cream I was going to pick.
And all I knew was that girls were going to be my best friends and boys would remain yukky until the age of around 16 when I would fall in love for the first time.

Did the today’s youth become more intelligent, more involved, more self aware?
Is it due the social media? The fact that there are hardly any taboo topics left in the world?

This does not mean I disrespect anyone.
But I am not afraid that I would feel more comfortable with a more conservative world.

Liberalism does scare me sometimes and I will always remain skeptical about the real meaning of it. 










15 thoughts on “Today’s youth

  1. I can tell you from my own experiences so far having a boy. Mine goes through phases of wanting to dress like a girl. Wearing makeup, painting nails, wearing the clothes, shaving, etc. I truly believe these are phases because he has said, “I like girls. I am not gay.” I tell him it’s okay no matter what you are and he still says this so yes, there is too much exposure to this stuff at their young age, but they have to figure it out for themselves what they want to be.

  2. Children always have phases. I remember my 15 yerar old cousin was two years interested in make up and women clothes, today he looks very manly.

    I remember a friend of mine going through a phase of believing she was a lesbian. But I guess her long term boyfriend changed her mind, because she will be marrying this year 🙂

    Is your son a teenager? That’s anyhow a very confusing phase as I remember!

  3. I can imagine (!)
    Somehow when a girl wants to play with technical LEGO it is considered as “cool”, but if a boy even points at a doll, people start worrying.

  4. Just a question Anabel. When a girl behaves and dresses like a boy, it seems fine . They just label her as a tomboy. But when a boy wants to put on make up and dress in a girly way, hell breaks lose. Very few families are ok with this. Why this discrimination?

  5. No problem!

    I definitely do agree with this and I have earlier replied this to Julie. However, I did also experience differently unfortunately when I was considered “lesbian” just because I wanted to study engineering, which made no sense at all.

    Discrimination is always useless and will never make sense.
    Although I will say that I would feel uncomfortable if my dad or boyfriend would suddenly feel the need to wear dresses.
    Does a man in a dress define him as gay?
    No. Maybe he just likes. But somehow it just doesn’t fit, I guess.

  6. I thought I was the only one, lol! I come from a long line of “tough broads” or warrior women and never thought anything of it we had to take care of ourselves, no men around for long. Thought it was normal. My sister who was bigger and tougher than me told me she always thought of me as a “girly girl” compared to her and maybe I was sort of. I just know that I was always jealous of what boys could do and how they were treated compared to me. We never thought about genders, you are who you are, but my sister & I did boy stuff & never played dolls, having 4 brothers. I did let my sons play with dolls and put on my makeup and jewelry if they wanted to, no big deal, you are who you are and they still joke about having a “feminine side.” Sadly I had a hard time in relationships because men always told me “I compete with them” whatever that means. I remember some neighbors calling me “Mrs Dad” when I was fixing an old car and had everything pulled out of the engine many years ago. My brothers taught me how to fix my own carburetor when you could still do that kind of stuff.

  7. I like this blog a lot. It’s very taboo but I like the comparison of how your childhood was more enchanting and fun, to the depressiveness of this generation. I can tell you this being a fellow youth. Good Job.

    – Locke Dor

  8. andrea, you have opened up a central topic of our times and i look forward to your further musings on the subject. your perspective is original and insightful.

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