For years women have been underestimated.
Luckily some strong females have improved a lot for us living in the 21st century.

Yet, still on today’s days, women get paid less, don’t get to management positions as easy and are expected to stay home when children “suddenly” pop-up.

But, is it really only men who are undermining women?
Or do we actually play a huge role in it as well?
Here’s my story. 

As a child, I loved wearing dresses. I loved playing with my dolls.
My parents were sure I was going to be one of those girly-girls.

However, as time passed, that shifted more towards “male dominated” interests.
I no longer liked to wear dresses. I started playing chess. And I turned out to be more of a Beta student.

When I was in the 3rd year of high school we had to choose in which education direction we wanted to move forward.
Most kids choose Art or Economics. Some choose Biology.
As the only girl, I choose Engineering.

The reaction of the boys and girls in class were very different.

The boys started laughing and told me I would never ever be able to succeed in this.
I love these kind of statements.
Please give me more! It will only make me achieve more!
It will only make me more confident.

The girls, however, were a special kind of mean.
I was announced “lesbian of the year” by them.
OK, seriously?
That’s your best argument?


I think there is still a lot to learn about feminism, or better yet “gender equality”.
Certainly not only by men. But even more so, by women.




22 thoughts on “Feminism

  1. Couldn’t agree more, not just men need to learn more about gender equality but we as women should contribute more. We should support each other, and just stop passing nasty sexist comments on each other first. Thanks for sharing this 😇

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    1. Thank you! 🙂
      There is still a lot to learn, especially for the Western world, who is considered to be modern.
      My parents gree up in Eastern Europe and in my dad’s engineering class it was very usual to see girls. And how many Asian female engineers do we see?
      One might wonder which part of the world actually is “underdeveloped”

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  2. You being ridiculed, I agree, totally out of order no matter what part of the world you’re from, that’s my opinion, sadly not true in the majority of southern countries. However, up to the point where you brought up who’s more civilised reference vocations, I was agreeing with you. Anyway, you are entitled to your opinion, as I am mine. I will though bring to your attention re women and the field of engineering, (which as you will be aware covers all manner of subjects) two woman, (I could, you too, with a little research could find many more), who are in charge of a huge building complex the Crossrail project, Industry is begging for engineers no matter their gender. I don’t think there is a problem with women being refused, more of they don’t want it, applies to both gender.
    Regardless I wish you a rewarding future in your chosen vocation. Take care,


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    1. It was more an observation rather than an opinion. And of course there are female engineers anywhere. But in my experience, just very little. In fact, in the past few years where I worked in a large firm and in two countries, I’ve only met a handful.
      And as far the begging for engineers, at least not in the Netherlands. Fimding a resonable paid took me 6 months.

      But thank you for your comment and wishes. I wish you and everbody else the same 🙂🙂

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  3. This is a very observant article. I think a lot of men tend to look at gender inequality and feminism and think they are being blamed and don’t want to have anything to do with it. But what gender inequality movements and feminism really target is ALL people who discriminate. Both men and women contribute to the problem in their own ways. I tried having a discussion with my boyfriend about feminism the other day and I was talking specifically about white men and how they essentially run the world and he got offended thinking I was targeting him and didn’t want to listen. What he failed to understand was that I wasn’t saying ‘Jake, you are the problem and how dare you have so much white privilege’. I was being broad and using a sub-group to define the problem not as the problem itself but as a contributor. We are all discriminatory.
    I am currently running a campaign about feminism and will probably make a post about this idea soon. If you want to check it out here are my links:
    Great post!

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  4. Definitely girls need to stop putting one another down. It could come from jealousy that you felt no shame for or fear in pursuing an area mostly dominated by men (which is silly). It could be jealousy that you actually have a passion (which I can understand a bit more). Who knows. I’m glad you didn’t let them get to you though.
    I think that’s why I get frustrated at times whenever there is a “cool” or “tough” woman on television, or someone who seems to like engineering and whatnot, and she is often made to be the lesbian or bisexual one. And it frustrates me because it’s tunnel vision. There are many women who are the typical “girly” and they’re lesbians, yet they are super rare in media representation. It just promotes this idea that these types of women are lesbians and these types of women are straight, and people lean into that in real life, as well, and it feels quite close-minded. Okay, I went off on a tangent with that rant.
    Thanks for sharing this experience!


  5. The fight is years old. It is the tough path too, as we are fighting with political as well the current social status of women. Your post was very genuine, it is the story with many women.


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