I read an article about a teenager who was addicted to drugs for years. After many tries, he has now been clean for a year. He is being applaud for his performance. He is invited to high schools to present himself as a role model. He even got to meet the president. Role model ha? The… Continue reading Recognition
The first vacation I took without my parents, was to London, with a couple of friends. Two guys, two girls. We must have been all around 17 years old and were pretty excited about the trip, especially because we also planned our first night out ever. Yes, we were a bunch of Goody-good kids. We… Continue reading There’s a Dutch man asking for Coke
I was just scrolling through the newest pop hits. Little Mix suddenly decided to become Latinas, which feels unnatural. Even worse, is the newest hair style of mr. 1D boy, Zayn, who bleached his hair to paper white. (On this picture, he reminds me a bit of my cousin who decided to give up his… Continue reading Back to the roots
I was raised in a country where "Freedom of Speech" is a very natural occasion. We are allowed to throw our honest opinion out in the open air. I never made much use of this privilege, however. And I will be "honest" with you, I am a bit skeptical. Freedom of Speech is often abused… Continue reading Honesty
I haven't been traveling much around the world as I would like too. However, I have been very lucky to meet expats within one silly hostel in Denmark where I lived in for 4 (!) years. I ate Iranian halve, was taught how to make the best Italian Tiramisu, was introduced to Polish Vodka, Belgian… Continue reading Culture thing
This morning, I got a poem from AnElephantCant based on my Emotion Doodles! Thank you so much for that! It is simply too sweet to be sitting in just my mailbox. I decided to make drawing to what he has written and like to shared it with you, P.S. Make sure you follow AnElephantCant since he offers great… Continue reading Emotion Doodles poem collab
My best friend in primary school started a a new hobby every 6 months or so. She was raised in an intelligent and wealthy family. Her dad was a bank director, her mum a doctor, both her sister were in good universities and she always had the best grades at school. Failure was not option… Continue reading Failure
So I reached 300 followers! Wow. Now, I am going to be honest, one of them is me. That's right, I am following myself 😉 Now, I searched for "followers" in the Readers section and I saw a lot of posts of people who have achieved 500+ followers in the same amount of time that… Continue reading A big big thank you to my 300 followers!
Some years back, I was at a course together with a colleague. We were waiting for some time for the teacher, when the receptionist told us "The teacher is gonna get late", she informed us. Now in all honest, she pronounced "late" a bit like "laid". Of course my colleague, the joker, couldn't just not raise… Continue reading When English is not your first language
Why did we as a child felt a desperate need to become an adult? What seemed so fun about it? For a girl the initial Adult Moment, is often considered to be the first "monthly party". My mum might have thought it was a magical moment, but all I remember was a huge amount of… Continue reading Way to adulthood
"Forgiveness means no more feeling the need to take revenge". "Forgiveness means closure" . They say. So what does that entail? That you will be able to tightly hug the "enemy"? I have been bullied, made fun for as long as I can remember. However, since things are going quite well, one could say I… Continue reading Forgiveness
When I just started to work at the office I was told that working from home was not a problem. For a high sensitive person like me, this was super exciting. Based on my first impression of the department, I knew I wouldn't work efficiently if I'd be here everyday. The lighting was yellow and… Continue reading Trust – at the work floor
I've lived on my own for a long time and have been always fine with it, until I noticed how much better I function in a team. Today, the boyfriend is on a business trip abroad. It doesn't happen often, but being alone for even a day, feels unusual. (Especially if the day before you… Continue reading A day on my own
You wouldn't believe this could actually happen to anyone, but let me tell you a story 😉 One day, in primary school, I was ready to walk from school to home. Suddenly I heard my friend behind me shout "Andrea! Watch out!" Before I knew it, a crow had landed on my head, stayed there… Continue reading My spirit animal (apparently)
Hello mr. Zebra, let me take your multi colored coat.
I just had a walk on the beach and couldn't help but capture this. Did someone read my previous post about Feminism and completely misunderstood me? 😉
I used to do Yoga. Not the "get into the tiger position" type of yoga. It was a meditation of some sort, maybe even therapy. One day we got the assignment to draw Mandala. The teacher gave us the best quality paper and nicest colors to draw with. It was art heaven. After one hour… Continue reading letting go
When I started university, I was the youngest one in class. All other classmates had a pre-education in Engineering and thus, were 4 years older and smarter than me. The teachers gradually adjusted their teaching style to a bit more advanced. It was hard for me to keep up. I had to study a lot… Continue reading Explain this to me like I’m a six year old
Home made Pizza bagels 😉 Does this already exist or did I just invented something new? P.S. One plain bagel, to keep it "Healthy".
When I was younger, my parents used to be very impressed. Not by my performances though. They knew that when ever I would start something, I'd work hard to achieve good results. When my friend would get a 7 out of 10 at an exam, it seemed to be more worth than my 8. I… Continue reading What are you impressed by?
The idea for this blog was supplied to me by Robert who asked me "what is your favorite perk of being different?". Excellent Question. He is the first who mentioned anything my blog's name. And other than in the "About" page, I haven't really said anything about the topic either, other than hoping you guys would find… Continue reading Why I feel “different”
There will be a lot of annoying questions during your job interview. Sometimes even rude. Since I have been dealing with this for quite a bit, I’d like to share my experiences with you and give you my best advice. 1. What are your strengths? This question I would divide in two parts: general and… Continue reading Job Interview Questions advice
For years women have been underestimated. Luckily some strong females have improved a lot for us living in the 21st century. Yet, still on today's days, women get paid less, don't get to management positions as easy and are expected to stay home when children "suddenly" pop-up. But, is it really only men who are… Continue reading Feminism
I created the emotion doodle calander! Do you like your month? Or which one do you prefer? 🙂
If you have difficulties making new friends, like I have, please keep on reading. Sometimes you don't have to be an extrovert or super talkative. Sometimes unfortunate incidents can lead to happy friendships. I have lived in a youth hostel for 4 years with many other expats who also worked in Denmark. Here are some… Continue reading How I met some of my friends
Gluttony. One of the 7 deadly sins. Why do we sometimes eat more than necessary? For sure not because of our body functions as one of a Camel! Most of our over-consumption is related to stress. I have noticed it myself. A couple of years back I felt very happy. The job was good. I… Continue reading How I lost 10 kg in just one day
28. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met. The way he responds to my jokes 29. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life. I once made a cartoon style drawing of the CEO of… Continue reading 36 Questions that lead to love (4/4)
As a child, we all want grow up. Not following the rules of your parents. Be king of your own castle. And as one classmate once mention "Dance around naked in your own private space". This one evening, I was home alone and decided it was time for some pamper time. I started a warm bath… Continue reading What is freedom (3)
Have you ever found yourself in the position regretting something you weren't picky enough about? Your house? Your job? That expensive piece of clothing? The guy who hears wedding bells after a couple of dates meanwhile you're trying find how to get rid of him in a friendly way? And, have you ever punched a… Continue reading Is it OK to be picky?
I think we can all agree with the fact that Monday mornings don't belong to a human being's happiest moments. And that's OK. It's also OK if you are feeling the spirit or decide to show a big fake smile. But please, don't start ruining MY day with YOUR happiness! After a phase of bad… Continue reading “Good” (Monday) Morning
19. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why? I'd love to say yes, but money still needs to be earned. I'd find a way to work less, or at least worry less about. I'd rather use that energy to… Continue reading 36 question that lead to love (3/4)
Stronger? Do you actually believe that? Have you actually experienced it? Or do we all just think this is true because it's a common saying? Because Kelly Clarkson sang about it? Because we are supposed to be robots and showing any vulnerability is a bad thing? What didn't kill me made me a lot of… Continue reading What doesn’t kill you, makes you ….
Exactly 16 years ago our teacher told us "You'll probably never forget what you were doing yesterday around 4 PM". She was right. She was also the teacher who opened up her concerns about me and my language ability to my parents. I was eleven. We just started learning English. Most my classmates knew already quite some… Continue reading 9/11
Rainy Sunday Afternoons are to stay inside all day To drink your favorite tea. To eat home made burgers. To cuddle with your loved ones. To watch your favorite movie/series. To light up a candle and make it cozy. To wear your PJs all day. And, to buy drawing equipment! I re-did all my doodles… Continue reading Rainy Sunday Afternoons
In physics, this for sure is true. Do you remember one of the first experiment your Science teacher showed you? Bet it was something with magnets! Two of the same poles would repel each other. But a North and South pole would attract each other. Does it work in the same way for humans? Answering… Continue reading Do opposites attract?
I remember when social media was upcoming, two boys from my school were commenting someone's Facebook profile. "Haha, she only got 67 "friends", she is probably ugly as f*uck". Seems valid* On the moments that I have nothing to do, I like to watch some video content creators. And I won't lie, meanwhile watching, I… Continue reading Shallow media
"Do one thing every day that scares you". "You should definitely get out of your comfort zone". These are the type of quotes that absolutely make me shiver. They are so common, that we all just seem to believe in them and advice them. Do we really need to put so much pressure on people?… Continue reading Fears
Some of the facts I have pointed out a billion of times in other blogs, but if you're a new reader, I thought this might be a good quick overview 🙂 My full name is Andrea Benko. Because of my name, many people assumed I'm an Italian man. I'm not 😉 I was born in… Continue reading 20 facts about me
There are different ways to express positive feelings. You'd laugh, when someone makes a good joke. You'd smile, when someone compliments you. You'd giggle, when your crush walks by. You'd grin, when you hear good news. However, sometimes, someone can reverse that curved line around your mouth. It are those people who think they're funny, but they're actually insulting you. When they know… Continue reading I’m only joking
The first association I had with Great Britain was based on what I saw in movies. Rainy weather, tea with with milk and biscuits, the always warm and friendly bear Paddington and school uniforms. And thanks to the Harry Potter movie, the image of latter became really popular. I remember when the movie was released,… Continue reading Fashion these days
If you're one of those pretentious people, you might say "No, never!". I used to say that. I didn't need much. Just a roof over my head. Food and drinks. But not regular cheese, only Permesan. And only brand Coca Cola. A nice warm bed, but definitely with satin sheets. A new book each month,… Continue reading Does money make you happy?
So! I got some questions from some lovely people as a respond to my Q&A blog. In this blog I am going to answer the questions from the 4 wonderful ladies (judged on their picture at least 😉 ) with amazing blogs. I'm going to link them down below. Make sure you keep up with… Continue reading Q & A – Sending out the A’s
10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be? My parents were very protective and kept me away from all the horrible things that happen outside for as long possible. I got a lot of love from them, but struggled the first few years on my own. If… Continue reading 36 questions that lead to love (2/4)
It was a rainy, but hot morning when I stepped into the public transport to work. There was no place to sit, but at least there was some space to stand. So I thought. Within the next few stops more and more people got in. I literally was with my head against the window. On… Continue reading Public transport
1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest? I had this one neighbor who'd sometimes would invite me over for tea and cookies. She was from German origin, but spend her early 20's in South America. She'd tell me about her job as a high level… Continue reading 36 questions that lead to love (1/4)
Do you sometimes feel like you're counting minutes instead of hours? Do 8 work hours feel like an eternity? Do you feel like you're stuck behind your desk and ever breath you take is being monitored? Obviously you're not at the work place. But if it makes any easier, neither am I. Here're my 10… Continue reading 10 tips on how to make a workday more bearable
A friend of mine just is currently in a country where F R I E N D S on Netflix. Even though I have watched every episode about 10 times, I'm still envious at her. It's the kind of show I'd like to watch during breakfast, toilet break, lunchtime, dinner, bath time and just before… Continue reading Where to meet “that” person
Sometimes you don't have to travel the entire world to meet all the nationalities. So have I experienced. I used to live in Denmark, which really is only one country away from the Netherlands. But the homesickness would always make me decide to spent all my vacations over there. I always took a night train… Continue reading Night train stories
If you dislike Monday mornings even more because of this question, you're talking to the right person. So let's do this together. We're going to stand up straight. Give them a glazed look. And say: "Absolutely nothing". And just walk away. Confidently.