This is what someone said to recently. She paused for a second after "but", which gave me the opportunity to analyze the situation and write a blog about ( the latter is not entirely true 😉 ). I hate when people say this. They are apologizing in advance for an insult they're going to make.… Continue reading “I’m not trying to be rude, but .. ..”
"I have 600 social media contacts (and you don't even have friends)". "The manager only trusted me with this project (so go back to your non-important work)". "I had 10 bed partners already by the age of 15 (and you're still waiting for the "right one at the age 24)". "That guy at the bar… Continue reading Story behind the design: Unimpressed Jelly
I overheard a conversation where two people were discussing what's worse, mental or physical illness. "Mental illness, depression, OCD, biopolar, autism, anxiety, whatever people call it these days. It's all a bit exaggeration.", person stated firmly, "Get up that chair, do some exercise, drink a beer, meet some people!". The other nodded, nervously. In a… Continue reading Mental vs. physical illness
Last night I woke up sweating from a bad dream. A colleague tried to murder me with a screw driver. People say every dream has a meaning. I searched up what dreaming about murder means on dreamscloud: Your unconscious is trying to kill off an unpleasant or unneeded aspect of yourself; Releasing repressed rage or… Continue reading How much do dreams affect you?
As I have confirmed before, "what ever you are doing, you're doing it wrong". If you are not trying to do good at school, you are ruining your changes for an easier future. If you are doing good at school, there is a high possibility you will be bullied. Smart people are often portrayed with… Continue reading Remember when you called us nerds?
It was raining quite heavily when I drove to work this morning. What else to listen to than REM - Shiny Happy People . I actually looked up the meaning of the song and saw two interpretations. It's a children's song - Hmmm, REM for children? It's sarcasm towards people who show fake happiness all the… Continue reading Shiny Happy People
"Objects in mirror are closer than they might appear". I know this. Yet, parking my car makes me very frustrated and nervous. Yesterday, it took me 15 minutes to properly park my car. A man walking his dog even stood still and for some time, laughing and watching me struggle. The pressure! I didn't dare… Continue reading Does a mirror really reflects reality?
I am always in dubio whether to go the gym on weekends. It's only open until 3. I feel like if I don't do it in the morning, I won't do it all. Today I woke up extra early to do the work and have the rest of the day to spend with Jasper. I… Continue reading Most people actually have a reason
Today, on the 8th of March, I am going to do something a little different. I want to mention my dad. Who no matter what, always put his family first. Who would help my mum preparing dinner, even after a long day of work. Who inspired me to find the right education. Who would paint… Continue reading An ode to the men who never disrespected women
What does it mean when someone from a first world country proudly says "I am a minimalist"? Does it mean they have no car. Or they do, but it's not a Porsche, BWM or Mercedes. Does it mean they only drink water. Or they did drink a no brand cola. Does it mean they have… Continue reading Are you a minimalist?
Each year in February and June, school would organize "sports day". An event which would keep me nervous all year. Sport at school wasn't about becoming healthy. It was about competition. If you weren't good at it, you'd never be acknowledged. Not just by your classmates. By teachers too. June was worse than February. The… Continue reading When adults don’t think about consequences
That's not the actual phrase, is it? But what does "wishing" even mean? Did it actually ever get you anywhere? If so, let me know 😉 I do believe fate can help out a bit sometimes. But if you are impatient like me, I suggest you stop the "sitting waiting wishing" and actually take some… Continue reading Be careful what you work hard for, cause you just might get it
The Dutch word for "happy birthday" is "gefeliciteerd". Try to pronounce that 😉 The actual translation of "Gefeliciteerd" is "Congratulations" . So that's what people, to my great annoyance" would say on someone's birthday in English. Whut? It's not like they achieved anything. The same I feel about these circulating awards. People put a huge… Continue reading One of those awards / 7 facts about me
I was raised up by skeptical parents. "It's probably too good to be true", was their usual reaction. When I would get back with a good grade from school. Internet banking. When I introduced them to Netflix. After so many years, they finally had the courage to book an all inclusive vacation. Which is perfect… Continue reading Story behind the design: Skeptical Valentino
When we got a house in the Netherlands, the family who lived there before, left a large bag with stuffed animals. Anything from a blue teddy bear and purple elephant to a pink mouse and a green snake. I loved them all. All the toys got names and birthdays several times a year. I was… Continue reading The child in me
Yesterday we were walking up a hill. Something which us Dutch people are not used to. Yet Jasper managed to walk without an critical heartbeat. Leaving me 200 meters behind, coughing up a lung. *dramatic version* 😉 How? He doesn't even work out? It's unfair! With 7.6 billion people living on planet earth, life has… Continue reading Comparing yourself to others
"How old are you again?", I asked the friend I met over dinner, "27?" "Noooo", she laughed, "30 in few months! And already now people are reminding me of all the things I should have achieved: get married, buy a house, have children. Pff". Because of these "advices", us 90's babies might feel a great pressure to get our… Continue reading Should you have your life together in your 20’s?
I have been told I am quiet person. Too quiet. Too invisible. I've been advised to do more small talk at work. " You don't have to plan a meeting if you want to discuss something". In fact, someone advised to book time in my calendar to make small talk with colleagues. "If you don't have… Continue reading Communication is a two way street
Back in 2017 when I was very unhappy in my previous job, I saw this amazing job opportunity out of the sudden. Everything I was good at and felt motivated for: Training. Wind Power. International. Danish company. Hubba Hubba. I wrote the perfect CV and application letter and waited patiently for a confirmation for a… Continue reading Talents
I always pictured myself as a sophisticated adult woman. On my way to work, I'd quickly grab a newspaper before stepping into a subway, wearing a fancy trench coat and functional, yet trendy laptop bag. I'd never have a bad hair day, a pinching bra or not my color foundation. The reality is slight more… Continue reading Do you have “a system”?
When people ask me I like honesty, I'd immediately say YES!! Sometimes it might be the limit of rudeness, but at least it's honest. I can handle any criticism. I can work on criticism. Honesty is good. I had earlier send an email to a friend which the proud announcement of my Emotion Doodles webshop.… Continue reading The biggest lie I tell myself
I like new stuff, but I hate shopping. I hated it as a child too. I was larger than most kids my age so the sales lady would also drag me to a more adult size section. It was embarrassing, time consuming and energy wasting. If the miracle appeared that I actually found something which… Continue reading Clothes
I remember when we got our first family mobile phone, which of course was a NOKIA 3310, my dad said "one day, you will be able to do everything with this thing". It will replace the game boy, radio, television, computer, camera. And here we are, at that exact era. I only ever had a… Continue reading What’s on my phone
The colleague sitting next to my office at work likes to play his music quite loudly throughout the building. Usually this would annoy me, but it doesn't. "Hey, I have brought a new CD", he told me the other day, "but I'm not sure if you will like it". Hell yeah! I love Johnny Cash!… Continue reading Do you feel embarrassed of your music taste?
Today we got the nicest surprise in the mail! The hoodies I ordered from my webshop are here! I am happy about the quality of the picture, but the hoodie itself is just wonderful and comfy! It's not too thick, so it's not like you won't fit in your coat anymore 😉 There is really… Continue reading Exciting!
Being the newest addition to a work place is never easy. Especially if you're young, shy and not from the same area as they are. Sometimes you might get forgotten. That happened yesterday to me. Usually once a month the "Management Team" is invited for a whole day meeting and dinner the evening before. For… Continue reading Focusing on the bigger picture
Do you have a role model? Your parents, Bill gates, the "business woman of the year"? If you ask teenage girls, there is a high chance they'd refer to an artist. They make funky music, hair is always on fleek and they wear the perfect clothes to show their "perfect" body. Recently I involved myself… Continue reading I’m 13 and I know a lot more than you think
NOTE: I mention my job quite often, but I have never explained what I do. So here we go 🙂 "Working 9 to 5, what a way to make a living", Dolly Parton sang. We all know the reality is more like "7 till 6" 😉 I have always put my career first. Sometimes it… Continue reading Story behind the design: Overworked Chestnut
I love food. I like make a delicious mayo-cheese-tomato sandwich from scratch and take to work. Heck. It's probably the highlight of my day 😉 But, I hate lunch. First, I am probably not a very charming eater. I feel uncomfortable eating in front of someone other than those who know me well. Plus, lunch… Continue reading My type of people
We like to put labels on people. Heck. We even like to label ourselves. That's why do personality quizzes for fun. Go on spiritual journeys to find the inner selves. We put definitions as introvert or extrovert onto our behaviour. Only to be prove that we are "being ourselves". One of the first major labels… Continue reading Put a label on it
*Old post which I had deleted. WHY? 😉 * Stronger? Do you actually believe that? Have you actually experienced it? Or do we all just think this is true because it's a common saying? Because Kelly Clarkson sang about it? Because we are supposed to be robots and showing any vulnerability is a bad thing?… Continue reading What doesn’t kill you, makes you ….
During a team building event at work once, we got the assignment to write the names of all our colleagues on a post-it. Below their name, we had to write what we thought was their best quality. I was quite new within the team, so it was a bit difficult to identify someone's personality. Likewise… Continue reading What’s your best quality?
On the first night in our recent trip we were woken up by a couple next door loudly arguing in the middle of the night. There was shouting, crying and smashing things for at least 4 straight hours. I was slightly annoyed because I wanted to sleep. Yet, also curious what possibly had gone so… Continue reading Why do we argue
Back when I was younger, it was popular to do these quizzes where your personality would reflect on a piece of fruit. Everyone always wanted to be the banana. But one friend answered differently: "I'd like to be a Cherry, so I can always have a friend close to me". Isn't that the cutest answer… Continue reading The Cherry close to me
So I have reached a little over 750 followers. Typically, I reach between 35 to 40 likes on a single post. This means that only 5% actually reads and like what they're reading. Even that, doesn't mean much. Yesterday I heard my phone buzzing. Once. Twice. And it kept on going. A certain person has… Continue reading Likes and followers
This is another phrase which give me cramps. Usually the type of people who are saying this are those who go on a backpacking trip through Australia or on a spiritual journey in India to "find themselves". What does that even mean? And how much right of speech do they have to say something like… Continue reading Always be yourself
In my early 20's I befriended a 10 year older Polish lady. She had a classy clothing style. Walked around in high heels to expand her long legs. Had beautiful long, blonde hair. And applied just the right amount of make up. Plus, she was extremely funny and intelligent too. We didn't see like the type of people who would… Continue reading Confrontation
Once I went on business trip with a colleague. I was the newest addition in the team and still felt quite shy to interact with people. This trip was an opportunity to get to know one of them and if that went well, he could help me merge into the group. I am usually good with… Continue reading Feeling that “Click”
It's said that the first few years of your life shape you. But equally important, are the teenage years. My parents never informed me much about all the things that were going to change and were expected from a young adult, physically and mentally. Maybe because it was an awkward topic. Maybe because it was too… Continue reading Teenage years
"Happy New year!", my parents shouted when I called them up 01-01-2018 at 00:02. Happy new ear you mean 😐 Only two weeks ago I was beyond excited for the Christmas trip to Ireland and the remaining days off. I was going get so much done, but at the same time rest and sleep so I… Continue reading Back to reality
Time to get sentimental! I browsed through the pictures taken this year. By the looks of it, you wouldn't think that 2017 has been anything but wonderful. A trip to Vienna, just before Christmas 2016. A trip to gorgeous Rome. Sunny Greece. 3 weeks of round trip in breathtaking Canada. Jolly Dublin. Several weekends… Continue reading How 2017 looked on social media